At some point, the version of you that got here isn't enough anymore.
You know what I mean — or you wouldn't be here.
Coaching, Polarity, and Men's Work — for men ready to be more honest about where they are.
About Guy
My real credentials aren't in any bio.
They're in the dates.
27 December 2001. The day I got clean and sober. That's where this work starts — not in a training room, not in a qualification. In a moment where the only honest option left was change. I ran 12-step groups. I worked in rehab. I know what it takes to rebuild from nothing, because I did it.
Years later, a second divorce — this time in Sweden. No language. No network. No family within a thousand miles. I stayed. Six months after we separated, his mother had a breakdown. Cosmo came to live with me full-time — ten months. His mum was still in his life, and he saw her often. But I was the rock. The constant. The one he came home to.
4 March 2022. My heart stopped at BJJ training. Cardiac arrest. A defibrillator brought me back. I turned down the permanent implant the doctors recommended, wore a defibrillator vest for three months, and waited to find out what my heart was going to do. It held. On 28 March 2026 I competed at the Nordic Open, Masters 4, white belt. Gold medal.
I'm not telling you this to impress you. I'm telling you because the men who come to Modern Savage have usually been somewhere hard. I want you to know I have too.
The work — Ashtanga yoga, Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, Men's Work, Stoicism, Tantra, coaching — isn't something I studied from a distance. It's how I found my way back. And kept finding it. Read Guy's full story.
What this is built on
Most men aren't broken. They're operating without honest reference points.
The culture offers two bad options: numb out or burn out. Modern Savage is neither.
This work is built on six principles — acceptance, courage, forgiveness, humor, humility, and patience. Not as aspirations. As practices. Things you return to, not things you achieve.
The goal isn't a better version of who you already are. It's the man underneath — steadier, more honest, more present to what actually matters.
The Six Principles to Mature Masculinity
Seven emails. One every three days. No noise. No pitch. Just worth reading.
The Work
Coaching
One-to-one work for men in transition. Divorce, identity, direction. No fixed programme.
Polarity
For men and couples. Deeper connection, more aliveness, more honest intimacy.
Men's work
The internal work. For men who want to understand themselves and show up more fully.
Latest blog posts
Atomic Habits Book Review
Atomic Habits is the best book on behaviour change available. Here’s what it gets right about why men fail at discipline — and the one question it can’t answer.
If you avoid conflict, you’re not nice — you’re being weak
Conflict avoidance feels like kindness. It isn’t. It’s fear dressed as consideration — and it’s quietly dismantling your relationships and your sense of self.
Man’s Search for Meaning Book Review
What keeps a man going when everything falls apart? This review of Man’s Search for Meaning explores Viktor Frankl’s insights on suffering, purpose, and why meaning—not comfort—is what truly drives us.
Core Principles
Six Principles to Mature Masculinity
Seven emails. One every three days. No noise. No pitch. Just worth reading.
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